Honesty is the Best Policy.

It seems like honesty in this day in age is hard to find. People find that they must come up with an excuse or simply just put the blame on somebody else. I am here to tell you that if you do this and get found out, you are most likely in major trouble (depending on the severity of the situation). Nothing can beat the truth. Lying causes mistrust in a relationship. Soon you will become the little boy who cried wolf and she will never know when you are telling the truth. Even the little things, you still need to be honest; however, here is where the exceptions come into play guys. If you are asked a question that are in the same means of “Does this make my butt look big?”, really contemplate what your answer is going to be before you actually do. No woman wants to hear you say yes here.

Why honesty is important? Like I said before, it builds trust in a relationship. Let’s look at a scenario to better explain. Say your lady has caught you on numerous occasions lying to here. In fact, it is to the point where she doesn't believe a word that comes out of your mouth. One day you are talking to your attractive and single neighbor. She admits to you that she has a huge crush on you and it’s too bad that you are in a relationship. You then explain to her that you truly care for your significant other and couldn't imagine your life without her. As jealousy strikes while seeing your significant other pull in the driveway, she kisses you. As you try to pull away, it is too late because your girlfriend has already seen it. You quickly try to your girlfriend about the crush that your neighbor had on you, but nothing is working. Your neighbor is denying the whole thing in hope to break you up and your girlfriend doesn't believe you because of the countless times you lied to her before. Thus, the relationship is over.

As you can see, if the relationship was built on honesty rather than lies, she would have most likely believed you. So honesty is important, whether it be big or small. Telling the truth is far better than lying and getting found out. But remember, if you get a dreaded question like the one mentioned at the end of the first paragraph, use your instinct. Until next time, I leave you with this quote - “The cold hard truth hurts less than a stone cold lie.”

Communication is key!

Communication seems like a cliched term but the truth is that it actually works. Without communication, any sort of relationship is boring; this results in the two people drifting apart and ultimately an end to the relationship. So guys, what can you do? Well, the answer can be summed up in one word: listen. Notice how I didn't say hear what she is saying; you must actually interpret and understand what she is saying. I understand that for guys this can be difficult, but it is absolutely necessary. You may be wondering, how do I stay interested or what can I do to make her feel like I am actually listening? A good technique to use is active listening. This is commonly used by psychologists and psychiatrists on their patients to help them understand information and let their patients know that they are actually listening. Active listening will require you to consciously remain in the conversation and will help keep you on track. How it works? When you are listening, pay attention to the details of what they are saying. Always make eye contact, use facial expressions (within reason), nod, and occasionally repeat key points or encourage her to keep going.

You must never interrupt her, respond with judgment, get distracted, zone out, or change the topic. By doing this, you make her feel as though you don’t care and don’t want to talk to her. Even if you are not particularly interested in the topic, she cares about it and wants to share it with you. By listening, you strengthen your relationship, create trust, and it allows her to actually see that you care and enjoy talking to her. If for some reason you did not know this, this is good for you. First, it really gives you an idea of who she is and if you think the relationship would work. Second, chances are you will find out some truly amazing things about her and will ultimately strengthen your relationship. And as an added note, just because you are a guy, doesn't mean you have to be a rock. You are allowed to show emotion and express your feelings. Truth is, she will likely feel happy that you shared your feelings with her. Don’t remain isolated; let her know how you feel regularly and don’t be afraid to show her that you have feelings.

So the idea is simple: listen and communicate. Without this, no relationship can last. And remember that just because you are a guy, doesn't mean you can’t share your feelings with her. This cannot be just one-sided though; both must listen, and both must share. Until next time, I leave you with this quote - “Communication in a relationship, is like the sun to the earth; without the former, the latter cannot exist.”

Welcome to a Gentlemen’s Blog!

Welcome everyone! This is a blog for those of you looking for advice, information, or just quality material to read if you are bored. I've created this blog to give advice on how guys should be treating women. Make no mistake, this is not meant strictly for guys; I am intending this for both men and women. So please don’t be turned away and read with an open mind.

For the Men (In a Relationship/Not in a Relationship): This blog can possibly save your life, metaphorically speaking. There are many ways that this blog could come in handy for you. For instance, if you feel like you are being avoided or completely ignored, there is a good chance you’ve offended her whether it be indirectly or directly. Que the blog. You can learn how to fix rough situations and right the wrong that was done. Remember that you are a guy, you will most likely make a mistake along the way whether it be purposeful or not. Just remind her of how much you love/like her and that you never meant to hurt her. On the other hand, if nothing is actually wrong with your relationship or you are not in one, you can use this as a guide to help make your relationship great in the future.

(As an added side note, NEVER HIT A WOMAN. You are a low-life creature if you do; no matter the situation, abuse is never the option whether it be from the man or woman).

For the Women (In a Relationship/Not in a Relationship):  You can use this as a reference. For those of you ladies that are in a relationship, use it to see if your fella is doing these things to help strengthen your relationship. For those of you not in a relationship, whether you are looking for one now or for the future, this gives you sort of a checklist to help you find the right guy. Remember though ladies, we are guys, and we rarely get it right on the first try; however, it’s those guys that are willing to put in the effort that truly deserve a second chance.

(As an added note for you ladies, abuse from a man should NEVER be tolerated; if you are being abused in a relationship, TELL SOMEONE. There is absolutely no reason for a man to hit a woman (or vise-versa) and it should be greatly considered before even thinking about giving them a second chance).

To All: Remember that with every idea there are some exceptions. You have to know what these exceptions are, however, I will do my best to explain them. If you have any questions, please feel free to comment; if you need help with something personal, you can email me at warnerobbie@yahoo.com and I will try to get back with you as soon as possible. If I have not answered you back, please kindly leave a comment saying you emailed me and I promise to get back to you. Until next time, I leave you with this quote - “We may fight, we may argue, and we may disagree; however, as long as the stars shine bright, my love for you will never end, and I will strive to be the person that you need me to be.”