Be Open-Minded.

You, as a guy, will be responsible for making some “interesting” decisions in your relationship. You will be asked to try new things and do things that particularly interests her. Understand this: I am not saying that you have to do one hundred percent of the things that she wants to do. That is not what a relationship is about; however, you have to be willing to try new things. For example, if she asks you to go to the opera, go with her. At least try to do it once. Just remember, there are plenty of desperate single guys willing to take your place. Also, think of it this way: chances are, there are things that you enjoy doing and want to share with her. If you are open-minded with her, she will most likely be open-minded with you.

There are some things to remember. Do not just do it because it is the right thing to do. You have to attempt to participate and do all that you can with everything you have. Do not be too judgmental either. At the end of the day, if she asks you what you thought and you didn’t enjoy it, just respond with something like “It didn't particularly interest me but I’m always open-minded to what you wanna do.” Don’t make this sound like you are lying. Be truthful about it. Actually be open-minded to her suggestions. You may actually enjoy it and find out that you have been missing out this whole time.

Remember the exceptions that I was talking about in previous posts? There are many here. For example, do not find yourself robbing a bank or committing any other crimes because she wants to. Police don’t buy the excuse “I was just being open-minded for my girlfriend.” Also, if you find yourself in an extremely uncomfortable situation and can’t handle it, politely tell your girlfriend that you can’t handle it. She will most likely respect that you at least tried and honor your decision; however, don’t use this as an excuse to get out of something (see honesty blog post). Only use it if you truly can’t handle what you are doing. Lastly, if you find yourself in an extremely dangerous situation, tell her. If you know that she is in a dangerous situation and do nothing about it and something happens, that is on you. Take responsibility here and tell her that you don’t want to see her get hurt. She may be upset at first, but that definitely beats something bad happening to her.

Be open-minded to your girlfriend. Understand that doing new things is not a terrible thing. It will strengthen your relationship and keep things interesting. Variety is the spice of life. Until next time, I leave you with this quote - “With an open-mind, you find endless possibilities to happiness.”