Be happy that she is your girl.

Guys, let’s be honest here. You like having her around. She makes you happy, makes you laugh, smile, and gives meaning to your life. So why not tell everybody about her? When you walk up to people that you know, always willingly introduce her as your girlfriend. This shows confidence and really solidifies her feelings toward you. Tell your buddies about how great she is. Don’t let them get into your head saying that you are “whipped” either. I absolutely hate this term with a passion. If you are doing the things that make her the happiest, that is all that matters. Who cares what they call it, you are being a gentleman to your girl. Don’t cave in to what others think. Show your gal the time of her life and always make sure she is happy. That is the most important thing out of anything: her happiness.

Also, willingly tell people how long you have been together. Say it like it is impressive, you know why, because it is. Every second you are with her is one more second you don’t have to live without her. She is an important part of your life and not only should you make her know it but everyone should know it. Understand this though, if she doesn't like you showing her off per say, you have to respect that. Girls don’t want to feel like another trophy you won. Instead, you need to portray them as the love of your life. Show that if she didn't exist, your life would be meaningless.

This dedication and commitment to spreading your feelings about her, will show her that you care. Especially if you do this in front of your friends. She will absolutely love that. When making her feeling as though she is needed, she will most likely feel complete happiness toward you and your relationship will be on the right track. Do not fail to do this. She is your lady and she deserves it. Nothing will come close to happiness like telling everyone of how lucky you are that she is your gal. She truly deserves every last minute of it. Never give up trying to tell people. They want to hear it again. Really, they actually don’t but it never hurts to spread word of the person that you love the most. Until next time, I leave you with this quote - “Having something special in your life is great; show it off.”

Being able to forgive.

Good news guys! Not only are you human, but I’m pretty sure women are too (I think). Because she is human, she is not perfect and is going to make a mistake at some point or another. You have to be able to know how to handle situations like this. Forgiveness is a very big step in this process. You must be able to judge the severity of what she has done for yourself. Keep in mind that people deserve a second chance. We as humans rarely get it right on the first try and feel regret immediately after you do it. You must be able to judge what is fair.

The best part of a relationship is that you both have feelings for each other. These feelings don’t just go away. Take into account that she is the person that you like to be with and that you would do anything to support her. Everyone messes up at some point. Forgiveness is important. If you do not forgive her, things will not be the same. It starts to build up internal anger until one day you can’t take it anymore. Forgiveness is emotionally cleansing and gives you a fresh slate. No relationship should end over a little mistake.

Forgiveness causes strength in a relationship believe it or not. It represents the two of you overcoming an obstacle. Overcoming obstacles help strengthen any relationship and keeps things moving properly. There is always going to be problems in a relationship. It is your choice whether you choose to forgive or not though. Do you choose to take the righteous path of forgiveness, or do you choose to move on? Though you may choose to move on, your feelings for her will always be embedded within you.

When it comes to forgiveness, you must listen to her full story. Keep an open-mind. Find out why she did what she did. Chances are there was a reason. If there wasn't a reason, then chances are it was by accident. Don’t be too quick to judge. She has been their for you, so you have to be their for her. Also, you have to know when she is being truly sincere. If she apologizes without sincerity, that should but a weight in your decision. If a girl is not being sincere to you, then chances are she is not the one for you. Until next time, I leave you with this quote - “It takes a strong person to say ‘I’m sorry’ , but an even stronger person to say ‘I forgive you’ ”.

The Little Things Count!

Have you ever noticed the smalls things about your girl? Do you know the things that no one else knows about her? If you don’t you might want to look at getting to know some of these things. For example, if I asked, what color are her eyes? Would you be able to answer this knowing one hundred percent that it is the right answer. Do you know when her birthday is? When you first met her? The first song you danced too with her? These are all the little things that you need to know about her. They may seem insignificant at first but trust me, they are not. These are some of the most important things in a relationship for you to know. If you do not know this stuff, you might be in trouble. Through these questions, you find out basic information about her that will benefit your relationship in the long run and ultimately make it stronger.

If you cannot remember information clearly, do not be afraid to start notes of things you don’t want to forget. You can write down almost anything you want to remember. Let’s say you do not remember dates well. You can write down her birthday and the day you two met that way you will never forget it. Showing her that you care enough to remember the things that are more difficult to remember, she will praise you for it. 

There are other little things that you should be doing for your girl. You should always be holding doors open for her. Always pay the check, you’re the man, sorry. Always help take off her jacket before she sits down. If she is cold, give her your jacket. Fun fact, in older times, men walked on the side of the sidewalk closest to the road so water and mud would not splash up onto the woman’s dress; instead, it hits you. These things require you to be very unselfish. You must commit yourself to doing things for her, not because you have to but because you want to. Acting gentlemanly is not really meant to be optional in a relationship. It is meant to be anticipated. You should want to do these things for her. It shows that you care for here, and it shows her that she makes you the best man you can be. Thus, creating a strong bond in the relationship and ultimately creating happiness. Until next time, I leave you with this quote - “Big surprises and large gifts are good, but the little things are what truly counts.”

R-E-S-P-E-C-T find out what it means to her.

Although many would say respect ties in with loyalty (because it does), there is another context that I am referring to. When I mean respect, I mean that you value her opinions. Respect shows that you care about what she cares about and values what she thinks. When she asks that you do something in a particular way or that you avoid doing something, you respect what she is asking. Don’t go against her word and especially do not go against yours if you promise something. There are many ways to show that you respect her and those are key to being a good gentlemen. When a girl gives her opinion about something, you don’t be judgmental of it and tell her she is wrong. It is called an opinion for a reason. Also, when she asks you not to do something, don’t do it. I know chances are that you are just wanting to joke around with her, but you have to respect her when she says stop. It is hard to get along with someone that doesn't understand the word stop. You need to stick up for her as well. If she gets into a situation with another person, you can’t abandon her. You must back her up and show her full support. If you abandon her in a situation, how can she trust you? How does she know that you won’t do it again, maybe if it’s something important? The more negative thoughts that you let her have, the greater the chance you will not last long with her. Always show her that you care for her opinions. Keep in mind that her values matter. You should want her to feel respected and safe to talk to you. Without this, she will never want to bring up subjects or express how she feels about things. If you are constantly making negative comments about her opinions and telling her that she is wrong, she will refuse to share them with you. Having an opinion is important; without an opinion, we don’t have much. That is why it is absolutely necessary to respect what she thinks and the choices that she makes. She expects you to always have her back and to always support her one hundred percent. Otherwise, why should she waste her time with someone that doesn't care about what she thinks? Until next time, I leave you with this quote - “Respect one another as you would want somebody to respect you.”