Be happy that she is your girl.

Guys, let’s be honest here. You like having her around. She makes you happy, makes you laugh, smile, and gives meaning to your life. So why not tell everybody about her? When you walk up to people that you know, always willingly introduce her as your girlfriend. This shows confidence and really solidifies her feelings toward you. Tell your buddies about how great she is. Don’t let them get into your head saying that you are “whipped” either. I absolutely hate this term with a passion. If you are doing the things that make her the happiest, that is all that matters. Who cares what they call it, you are being a gentleman to your girl. Don’t cave in to what others think. Show your gal the time of her life and always make sure she is happy. That is the most important thing out of anything: her happiness.

Also, willingly tell people how long you have been together. Say it like it is impressive, you know why, because it is. Every second you are with her is one more second you don’t have to live without her. She is an important part of your life and not only should you make her know it but everyone should know it. Understand this though, if she doesn't like you showing her off per say, you have to respect that. Girls don’t want to feel like another trophy you won. Instead, you need to portray them as the love of your life. Show that if she didn't exist, your life would be meaningless.

This dedication and commitment to spreading your feelings about her, will show her that you care. Especially if you do this in front of your friends. She will absolutely love that. When making her feeling as though she is needed, she will most likely feel complete happiness toward you and your relationship will be on the right track. Do not fail to do this. She is your lady and she deserves it. Nothing will come close to happiness like telling everyone of how lucky you are that she is your gal. She truly deserves every last minute of it. Never give up trying to tell people. They want to hear it again. Really, they actually don’t but it never hurts to spread word of the person that you love the most. Until next time, I leave you with this quote - “Having something special in your life is great; show it off.”

Being able to forgive.

Good news guys! Not only are you human, but I’m pretty sure women are too (I think). Because she is human, she is not perfect and is going to make a mistake at some point or another. You have to be able to know how to handle situations like this. Forgiveness is a very big step in this process. You must be able to judge the severity of what she has done for yourself. Keep in mind that people deserve a second chance. We as humans rarely get it right on the first try and feel regret immediately after you do it. You must be able to judge what is fair.

The best part of a relationship is that you both have feelings for each other. These feelings don’t just go away. Take into account that she is the person that you like to be with and that you would do anything to support her. Everyone messes up at some point. Forgiveness is important. If you do not forgive her, things will not be the same. It starts to build up internal anger until one day you can’t take it anymore. Forgiveness is emotionally cleansing and gives you a fresh slate. No relationship should end over a little mistake.

Forgiveness causes strength in a relationship believe it or not. It represents the two of you overcoming an obstacle. Overcoming obstacles help strengthen any relationship and keeps things moving properly. There is always going to be problems in a relationship. It is your choice whether you choose to forgive or not though. Do you choose to take the righteous path of forgiveness, or do you choose to move on? Though you may choose to move on, your feelings for her will always be embedded within you.

When it comes to forgiveness, you must listen to her full story. Keep an open-mind. Find out why she did what she did. Chances are there was a reason. If there wasn't a reason, then chances are it was by accident. Don’t be too quick to judge. She has been their for you, so you have to be their for her. Also, you have to know when she is being truly sincere. If she apologizes without sincerity, that should but a weight in your decision. If a girl is not being sincere to you, then chances are she is not the one for you. Until next time, I leave you with this quote - “It takes a strong person to say ‘I’m sorry’ , but an even stronger person to say ‘I forgive you’ ”.

The Little Things Count!

Have you ever noticed the smalls things about your girl? Do you know the things that no one else knows about her? If you don’t you might want to look at getting to know some of these things. For example, if I asked, what color are her eyes? Would you be able to answer this knowing one hundred percent that it is the right answer. Do you know when her birthday is? When you first met her? The first song you danced too with her? These are all the little things that you need to know about her. They may seem insignificant at first but trust me, they are not. These are some of the most important things in a relationship for you to know. If you do not know this stuff, you might be in trouble. Through these questions, you find out basic information about her that will benefit your relationship in the long run and ultimately make it stronger.

If you cannot remember information clearly, do not be afraid to start notes of things you don’t want to forget. You can write down almost anything you want to remember. Let’s say you do not remember dates well. You can write down her birthday and the day you two met that way you will never forget it. Showing her that you care enough to remember the things that are more difficult to remember, she will praise you for it. 

There are other little things that you should be doing for your girl. You should always be holding doors open for her. Always pay the check, you’re the man, sorry. Always help take off her jacket before she sits down. If she is cold, give her your jacket. Fun fact, in older times, men walked on the side of the sidewalk closest to the road so water and mud would not splash up onto the woman’s dress; instead, it hits you. These things require you to be very unselfish. You must commit yourself to doing things for her, not because you have to but because you want to. Acting gentlemanly is not really meant to be optional in a relationship. It is meant to be anticipated. You should want to do these things for her. It shows that you care for here, and it shows her that she makes you the best man you can be. Thus, creating a strong bond in the relationship and ultimately creating happiness. Until next time, I leave you with this quote - “Big surprises and large gifts are good, but the little things are what truly counts.”

R-E-S-P-E-C-T find out what it means to her.

Although many would say respect ties in with loyalty (because it does), there is another context that I am referring to. When I mean respect, I mean that you value her opinions. Respect shows that you care about what she cares about and values what she thinks. When she asks that you do something in a particular way or that you avoid doing something, you respect what she is asking. Don’t go against her word and especially do not go against yours if you promise something. There are many ways to show that you respect her and those are key to being a good gentlemen. When a girl gives her opinion about something, you don’t be judgmental of it and tell her she is wrong. It is called an opinion for a reason. Also, when she asks you not to do something, don’t do it. I know chances are that you are just wanting to joke around with her, but you have to respect her when she says stop. It is hard to get along with someone that doesn't understand the word stop. You need to stick up for her as well. If she gets into a situation with another person, you can’t abandon her. You must back her up and show her full support. If you abandon her in a situation, how can she trust you? How does she know that you won’t do it again, maybe if it’s something important? The more negative thoughts that you let her have, the greater the chance you will not last long with her. Always show her that you care for her opinions. Keep in mind that her values matter. You should want her to feel respected and safe to talk to you. Without this, she will never want to bring up subjects or express how she feels about things. If you are constantly making negative comments about her opinions and telling her that she is wrong, she will refuse to share them with you. Having an opinion is important; without an opinion, we don’t have much. That is why it is absolutely necessary to respect what she thinks and the choices that she makes. She expects you to always have her back and to always support her one hundred percent. Otherwise, why should she waste her time with someone that doesn't care about what she thinks? Until next time, I leave you with this quote - “Respect one another as you would want somebody to respect you.”

Compassion and love wins the race.

It is one thing to care about your girl, but it is another thing to show it. She wants to feel loved at all times. In order for you to do that, you not only have to feel it, but you have to say it and show it. Telling a girl how you feel does more to a woman than we think it does. It really solidifies her greatest feelings for you and truly erases the doubts in her mind. It lets her know “Hey, now I know for sure that he cares.” Although it seems like a little thing, it represents far more than you ever that it would.

Along with telling her, you must also show her how you feel. Don’t think of this as buying her the most expensive items per say. Think of it as giving and doing things for her that represent your feelings and surround your relationship with her. For instance, instead of buying her really expensive clothes or jewelry (this stuff is nice but doesn't represent your relationship well) you could get her something personal to her; this could be something she always wanted as a kid or could never find. Things such as these create precious moments in a relationship that lasts way longer than any clothing or jewelry would. Showing your love in unique ways is important; however, it does not have to be complicated. Although it may seem like you have to always buy her the best and greatest stuff (do it occasionally), you can simply show your love through precious and memorable gifts.

Not only should gifts be important, but you should also do romantic things for her. Depending on what she likes, you could do multiple things. For example, you could go on a walk with her one evening through the park or through the woods. You could go have a picnic on a hill that is over watching the sunset. Take her to the movies with a romantic dinner beforehand. Just don’t let things get boring. Always show her how much you love her through different ways.

You must give and show your feelings to the girl that you are with. Saying how you feel is only the start. Through this, you will find her being more happy and less likely to succumb to boredom. Love and compassion truly does win the race. Until next time, I leave you with this quote - “The love you give is the love that you get, but in the end, love is about giving, not receiving.”

Loyalty only to Her.

As a guy, you are going to be tempted by many things. Loyalty to a girl is important though. Don’t find yourself “looking” at other girls. Don’t feel like you need to keep your options open, you have a girlfriend and she is all you need. These things make her feel inferior to other girls and causes her to feel desperate to change. It makes her feel as though she is not good enough. She will always feel like she is in a competition; make her feel as though she is the only one you will ever need. Always put her first and never make her feel left out. You have to keep her “in the loop.” She trusts you, so do not take that for granted.

To make her feel as though you are being loyal to her, there are many things that you can do. Take her out often. Make her feel as though she is always getting the special treatment. By doing this, you make her feel important and that she is the only one for you. Always remind her of how beautiful she is. Through this, she will not feel self-conscious about herself and feel like she needs to change. Remind her of the reasons that you fell for her. All these things and many others will let her know that she is the one and that you will not leave her.

This creates trust in a relationship. Though you have this trust, this does not mean you have the right to be with other women behind her back. Relationships are not meant to be about sabotage and covert operations; it’s about commitment and compassion. Being truthful and loyal to the person that you love the most. To them, that is all that matters. The second you be with another woman or find another woman more attractive, to her the relationship might as well be over. Loyalty is important. It determines how a relationship starts and possibly ends. I don’t know about you, but I do not find this a good way for a relationship to end. Loyalty should not be taken lightly, it is the center of all relationships. It is our foundation and what truly makes a good relationship, good. Without loyalty, there is no trust. Without trust, there is no relationship. Until next time, I leave you with this quote - “Commitment is great, but loyalty shows true love.”

Be Open-Minded.

You, as a guy, will be responsible for making some “interesting” decisions in your relationship. You will be asked to try new things and do things that particularly interests her. Understand this: I am not saying that you have to do one hundred percent of the things that she wants to do. That is not what a relationship is about; however, you have to be willing to try new things. For example, if she asks you to go to the opera, go with her. At least try to do it once. Just remember, there are plenty of desperate single guys willing to take your place. Also, think of it this way: chances are, there are things that you enjoy doing and want to share with her. If you are open-minded with her, she will most likely be open-minded with you.

There are some things to remember. Do not just do it because it is the right thing to do. You have to attempt to participate and do all that you can with everything you have. Do not be too judgmental either. At the end of the day, if she asks you what you thought and you didn’t enjoy it, just respond with something like “It didn't particularly interest me but I’m always open-minded to what you wanna do.” Don’t make this sound like you are lying. Be truthful about it. Actually be open-minded to her suggestions. You may actually enjoy it and find out that you have been missing out this whole time.

Remember the exceptions that I was talking about in previous posts? There are many here. For example, do not find yourself robbing a bank or committing any other crimes because she wants to. Police don’t buy the excuse “I was just being open-minded for my girlfriend.” Also, if you find yourself in an extremely uncomfortable situation and can’t handle it, politely tell your girlfriend that you can’t handle it. She will most likely respect that you at least tried and honor your decision; however, don’t use this as an excuse to get out of something (see honesty blog post). Only use it if you truly can’t handle what you are doing. Lastly, if you find yourself in an extremely dangerous situation, tell her. If you know that she is in a dangerous situation and do nothing about it and something happens, that is on you. Take responsibility here and tell her that you don’t want to see her get hurt. She may be upset at first, but that definitely beats something bad happening to her.

Be open-minded to your girlfriend. Understand that doing new things is not a terrible thing. It will strengthen your relationship and keep things interesting. Variety is the spice of life. Until next time, I leave you with this quote - “With an open-mind, you find endless possibilities to happiness.”